fellows family

piss and moan

2006-04-04T21:00:00.000-04:00

Well in the past i have been a real bitch. I know that. A wile ago i had gotten all pissy when everything was falling on my head. so much so i blamed an online mommy group that i belonged to. I still dont know what was going threw my head but that was then this is now. theres nothing i can say for the fact i was a back stabbing bitch then. i took off there web link out of anger and stupidity. im going to see if someone can send me the link button so that i can put it on here and my other site.

For anyone who doesnt know i went from one mommy site to another site and talked shit on another one. i didnt have an answer why then and realy dont now except that i was being stupid. better i wasnt thinking. i had friends on both sites. i still keep in touch with some of the ladies from my original site.

so if your a mom check out Sunshine State moms

well talk at everyone later.

paid to click

2006-02-28T15:17:00.000-05:00

Here is a few sites for the paid to read emails. will add more when i find them

http://www.many-mails.com/pages/index.php?refid=josephinecats http://www.invest-mail.com/pages/index.php?refid=josephinecats http://www.forex-mails.com/pages/index.php?refid=josephinecats

talk at ya later

family board

2006-02-16T12:30:00.000-05:00

New Family Message Board

Family Life

spaming

2005-11-05T23:41:00.000-05:00

Stop

Spamming

Blog

i dont care if your nude, or have found porno site. just stop doing it...

I dont spam your blog!!!!!

so dont do it to me......

the band

2005-11-03T10:50:00.000-05:00

Well David is going to be working with the base every wens. at a friend Gamble's house. hopefuly Gamble is going to going to teach him more than 3 notes on the guitar. Because there are time's that it can drive me crazy.(not lately, but a while ago).

For those of you who dont know Gamble, he is the base player for Quantum Chaos.

http://www.myspace.com/quantumchaos check it out.

next show below

Saturday November 19th 2005
CIRCLE FEST VAt
Circle Rehearsal Studios
10841 75th St. NLargo, FL
(727) 546 - 8930Party Starts At 6:00p.m.
Bands Start At 7:00p.m.SEVEN BANDS IN ALL!!$5 A Head For METAL, MUSIC, & MAYHEM!What More Could You Want??!!So Come On Out & Help Us Have A Good Time!

Band List And Times
Vertigo Endeavor - 7:00 - 7:45
QUANTUM CHAOS - 8:00 - 8:45
Pain Principle - 9:00 - 9:45
END UNSEEN - 10:00 - 11:15
Deception - 11:30 - 12:15
Holding God Hostage - 12:30 - 1:15
Chaos Crew - 1:30 - 2:15
This is going to be the biggest and hopefully the best CircleFest that we've had to date. So come out and make it without a doubt the best CircleFest EVER!!

Happy birthday

2005-11-02T23:48:00.000-05:00

Well probably by the time I get done with this it will be my birthday.

I know who cares if its your birthday. Well I do. And for once in many, many months IM caring for myself. I'm not going to be working tonight (11/3). The love of my life David bought me the most beautiful water fall item in the world. At least to me it is. Of course he bought himself Starwars 3. But our anniversary is this Sunday so that is his gift.

I have been sitting around here, worried about what someone has said, could say about me. And you know what. I don't care what anyone says about me anymore. People can waste there time and life talking about me for all I care. I have 2 wonderful kids and a great hubby. I don't need anyone's blessings or approval. I know when my time on this planet is up, I will be reborn. Either as another person, animal, creature, plant or even the air or water we breath and drink.

So if they have nothing else better to do. Go for it. IM sure everyone needs a good laugh. I know I do. But just one question if you want to talk about everyone so much, how much time do you spend with your kids. Makes you wonder.

Just tonight we had the police going door to door cause there was a missing little 10 yr old boy. I just wonder why his parents didn't keep a better track on him. It was 10pm when they were looking for him. I just couldn'timagine not knowing where my children are at any age.

Oh and a little side note. For those of you who are sending me im's about she said this or that. Stop it. As you can tell I don't care what they said. Life is to precious and short to worry about that.

Blessed Be.

The way I see it.

2005-11-01T08:45:00.000-05:00

The way I see it is. You cant make everyone happy all the time and sometimes not even some of the times. They can say "I want an apology" and no matter how many times you say "I'm sorry" there not going to believe you. They will try to run you down inside. Till you are just so damn tired to think. Then when you decide to leave to make it easier on everyone. And leave. Your called a coward, that you ran away. Not owning up to what you did. Where what they really want is to see you gravel. And that's not me. I will say I'm sorry, but I'm not going to jump threw hoops. When the voting is to be over with at a certain time and all of a sudden there's a new poll. You know what happened. No one liked the results from the first vote. So lets vote again and again till we get it right. I'm just done. I'm tired of being a coward, called a psycho bitch. They complain that I didn't stand up for them. When I know I didn't. But neither did some of there other friends. No one said hay stop saying that about them. Yeah they said I go to both places and enjoy both places. But since I was the one found out for venting on an online place, I'm the one that got all the hell. I did fight to stay. But by the end I was so tired of fighting I quit. So in the end they won. Should have been happy with winning, right? No now I'm a coward for not sticking it out, going the extra mile. Not kissing ass right I don't know. Maybe it was the fact I wouldn't kiss ass. Everyone is going to comment But you were a SUPERMOD. Which for those of you who don't know what that is. It means your suppose to be perfect all the time and never make mistakes. Basically act like a robot. I was done being a robot. I am human I make mistakes. And really how many of you haven't made a mistake now and then. So for all those out there. Ill say it on a public place.

SORRY

FOR

HURTING

YOUR

FEELINGS!!!!!

I know now I will hear it wasn't public enough. So I am also going to post this on my other blog . A lot of people read it there.

but you know what. I'm getting all stressed out sitting here again. So I'm done.

my space

2005-10-31T21:19:00.000-05:00

If anyone wants. check out my space

http://www.myspace.com/jfellows

i will be adding more blogs.

life

2005-10-31T17:25:00.000-05:00

life sucks...

NOT COOL

2005-10-12T22:25:00.000-04:00

My name is SarahI am three,My eyes r swollenI cannot see,I must b stupidI must b bad,Wat else cud hav madeMy daddy so mad?I wish I were betterI wish I werent ugly,Then mayb my mommyWud still want 2 hug me.I cant do a wrongI cant speak at allOr else im locked upAll day long.When im awake im all aloneThe house is darkMy folks arent homeWhen my mommy does come homeI'll try n b nice,So mayb ill jus getOne whippin 2nyt.I jus heard a carMy daddy is bkFrom Chariles bar.I hear him curseMy name is calledI press myselfAgainst the wallI try 2 hideFrm his evil eyesIm so afraid nwI startin 2 cryHe finds me weepinCalls me ugly words,He says its my faultHe suffers at work.He slaps n hits meAnd yells at me more,I finally get freeAnd run 2 da doorHes already locked itAnd i start 2 bawl,He takes me and throws meAgainst da hard wallI fall 2 the floorWith my bones nearly broken,And my daddy continuesWith more bad words spoken,"Im sorry!", I screamBut its nw much 2 lateHis face has been twistedInto a unimaginable shapeThe hurt and the painAgain and againO plz God, hav mercy!O plz let it end!And he finally stopsAnd heads 4 da doorWhile i lay there motionlessBrawled on the floorMy name is SarahI am three,2nyt my daddyMurdered meAnd you can helpSickens me 2 the soul,And if u read disand dnt pass it onI pray 4 ur forgivnessCause u wud hav 2 b1 heartless person2 nt b effectedBy dis PoemAnd because u r effected,Do sumfin bout it!So all i ask u 2 doIs pass dis on!IF U R AGAINST CHILD ABUSE!PLZ COPY AND PASTE THIS AND PASS IT ON

wens.10/12

2005-10-12T22:11:00.000-04:00

Well life is going. We are finaly almost all unpacked. Everything except my brakeables. I'm waiting till we get some more shelf's so that i can put them up.

In other news Nathan is going threw the fussy faze where he cries all the time. I think its because him and Vi are now shareing a room. I have joined another mom group . Go and check it out. They have something for everyone. I know theres some problems with my blog. But i just dont know why theres a white strip at the top. I dont know HTML and probably never will. I would have my hubby help but he would probably deleat everything and i would be back at square one again.

I am still working alot of hrs. at night with the telemarketing. And I am now trying to put an effort into selling the Fuller Brush items. So if anyone wants anything just let me know.

Well im getting pretty tired so i think ill call it a night.

talk to you all later.

put your computer to work

2005-09-09T12:50:00.000-04:00

put your computer to work
follow the directions and make money for doing nothing.... If youguysknow i will not send you something inless i try it. and i havealreadystarted manking some money. so trust me its worth a try. and thereisno SPYWARE OR VIRUS...just check it out.LET YOUR COMPUTER EARN YOU CASH WHILE YOU DO NOTHING!!!

For just five to ten minutes of effort by you. You will not need toinvest any money. No more than four clicks of your mouse when youboot upyour PC and within 10 minutes you will see the cash start to accrue.This step by step guide will show you how to profit by using apay-per-click website. The best part is – you DO NOT have to clickany links toget paid. Your computer will do this by running one program whichyoucan minimise to your system tray leaving your PC free to do whateveryouchoose to do.The main website of this pay per click is not very informative atallbut it will make you money. You can check up on your earnings asoftenor little as you wish.It is also worth noting that instead of just one search enginepayingyou to click, there are currently 21 different search engines. Youcanuse all of them simultaneously and be paid to "view" their pages. Inabout a month another 200 or so search engines are due to be added –orsimply ten times more opportunity to make money !!!Each search engine accrues a separate portion of your "surfing"time.They do have a minimum payout value of $60. In honesty, it couldtake youtwo months to accrue $60 in each search engine presuming that youleaveyour computer running day and night. This may seem like a slowprocess,however $60 x 21 or even $60 x a possible 221 is still aconsiderablesum of money for doing NOTHING (or at worst very little). $1260 for21search engines when they hit the $60 threshold. That's over $4000withthe extra search engines added.Please print this page to refer to as you go through the step bystepinstructions
Please click on the link below to sign up or copy and paste intoyourweb browser
http://www.ppcappraisal.com/register.php?fT=1&RefId=44923
You will now be presented with a form to fill inLogin:

Enter your own unique login namePassword:

Enter password and confirm it in next fieldCompany name: Type in "ppc appraisal"

Contact Person: Type in your name

Tax ID: Type in "N/A"

Email address: Type in your email address. Please note that youcannothave any non-alphabetic characters in your email address. Sign upfor afree hotmail account if necessary (http://www.hotmail.com/ )

Address, etc: Type in your address

URL : Type in "ppcappraisal.com"Now you should be able to login.

Please note you will have toconfirmyour email address to register.

Once you have logged in you will betaken to a menu. Click on REQUESTS. At the bottom of the page click SELECT then REQUEST. Then click on PAGE 2 and click SELECT and REQUEST again.If there are more than two pages (and there soon will be) then repeatthe above process to select all possible search engines. Everythingisnow set for you to start earning money.

The next step is to automate the process so you do not have to do any clicking to earn the cash.Click on the link below
http://www.bestfriendz.com/images/test33.EXE

Your computer will then prompt you to save a file called test33.exe.Save this to your desktop.

Now login to PPC appraisal and click onCAMPAIGNS on the menu. Copy your Portal URL which is the one listedon thecampaigns page.

Now you have downloaded the test33 program, double click on the iconinyour desktop to run the program. When the browser has opened click on TOOLS on the menu bar. Click ANALYST the ACT then SETUP.

This bringsadialog box up on screen. Click on APPEND to open popup window. Typeword"set1" and click OK.Pop up window will disappear. Now in the small window on the left youshould see Set1 inside of it.Then paste the Portal URL that you copied from the campaigns page onthe PPC website into the large right window on the right and click OK.

On menu bar click TOOLS then ANALYST then ACT then SET1. The URL will then load up. Now click TOOLS/ANALYST/LOOP.On menu bar click NAVIGATION then SIX.At this stage you will have opened up six search engine browserswhichwill accrue money to six search engine totals at a time rather than just one !!

The test33 program will now do all the clicking for youcycling through all of the current 21 search engines accruing moneyto eachone. All you have to do now is minimise test33 and let it get onwiththe clicking for you while you do NOTHING.

At this point it is worth going for a cup of coffee. When you returnlogin to the PPC website and click STATISTICS and you should see that test33 has already earned you some money !!!

NB – If you do need to turn off your PC or reboot for one reason oranother you will need to run the test33 program when you power up.Doubleclick on the test33 icon and click TOOLS/ANALYST/ACT/SET1, THEN TOOLS/ANALYST/LOOP, THEN NAVIGATION/SIX.

There is no spyware or adware contained in these programs. What these search engines are doing is paying to try to improve their numberswithAlexa so they have a better chance of competing with the big boyslikeYahoo and Google.

Please note: when you reach the payout amount you can request PPC tosend you the money. At this point you will need to provide detailsofwhere you want the money to be sent. I use my paypal account as itsortsout all the currency changes for you.Finally, I wish you well and hope that you earn lots of money bydoing NOTHING.

Many Thanks

josephine

crazy weeks

2005-08-13T00:12:00.000-04:00

well im hopeing that the constructions are over with my house. I'm tired of smelling different chemicals all day and dust threw out the house. i just want to get my life back to normal. I have been working every night for a week. and i see alot more of week's of alot of work. i try to get on here and write something but as you can tell that hasn't worked out lately.

im going crazy around here. Vianna is def. going threw the terible 2's where she wants to take her diaper off all the time and argue about everthing.

well thats all for now.

Thinking of moving

2005-08-04T16:37:00.000-04:00

Well our new landlord is being a pain in the rear. Yesterday he brought a friend of his over here, and she's another realastate person and they sometimes swap properties. And he's made it clear that we probably wont be buying this house in a year like I wanted to. So we have been thinking of moving to TX. Where davids parents live. I have lived in Florida since I was 2 so it would be hard to move. I just cant stand that the landlord comes over anytime he wants and then last sat. We were not even here and he came right on in. IM sorry but I think that is so rude like he doesn't care that we live here. This has been driving me crazy. I haven't been able to focus on the mommy site, or my store.

I am just so depressed because he talkes to me like IM beneath him. Like he's better. Even after he almost had a heart attack in my kitchen and I helped him by checking his b/p and making sure that he was alright. He just kept going there's no plan on making you move or any thing like that so don't be worried. How in the hell can I not be worried. My stomch has been in knotts.

I dont know what were going to do though. were planning on waiting till next march or april to go for vacation. and i dont know if were going to make it that long.

Busy day

2005-07-29T11:26:00.000-04:00

busy, busy day

Well we have to take Vianna speech therapy today. So I will try to write more later. Wish us luck...

Then to Now.

2005-07-25T14:12:00.000-04:00

Then to now

Well since Jonathans Birthday. We had Viannas Birthday party. It went over fine and she loved all her presents and her cake.

We have a new land lord and he has painted the house green. I will take pictures of it later to show everyone. My landlord is also a pain in the ass. Half the time when he comes out, because he is also doing some work to the house. He acts like I do not exist. Which really ticks me off when he talks like IM not even there. Example he was talking to the guys and I was right there he asked them if I would be home the next day. He knew that we were having our daughters birthday party on Sunday and yet on Saturday he actually made the remark that it would be an inconvenience if they were there Sunday wouldn't it.

so now I am trying to get my husban's credit better so that by next year we can buy this house or if he doesn't want to sell another house. But for the next year he is going to drive me crazy.

I got my nose pierced and the ring they had put in was a pain in the rear to clean. So I went out this weekend and got a regular hoop ring to put in and now it is so much easier to clean. Hubby just keeps joking about what I am going to get pierced next. Haven't made up my mind on that. I have some tattoos that I would like to get done also. But I think I will worry about hubbies credit and my teeth first. Then worry about my tatt.'s

I haven't been able to work that much lately because of everyone working on the house, it is a little hard to get a nap when the kids do when I work all night.

Well I think I have caught every one up and I will try to keep up on posting instead of every couple of weeks....

have a great day everyone..

Happy Birthday Jonathan

2005-07-09T05:43:00.000-04:00

Happy Birthday Jonathan

Today is my angel boy's 5th birthday. Its such a shame that he has been gone longer than he was alive. He is with us for ever in our hearts and minds. I hope that if he was reborn that it was to a good family. Someone who will love him as much as I did, and not to a abusive family. And if he has not been reborn yet I hope that he has found comfort with his ancestor's.

Its 4:38

2005-07-09T05:38:00.000-04:00

It's 5:38 A.M.
And I cant sleep. I want to but my chest is doing this flip flop thing inside and its driving me crazy.

Well the kids had there exams yesterday, and there doing just fine.

Vianna is heaver than tall. She is in the 50% for height and 80% for weight. Nathanial is just fine on that part. The Dr is worried about the fact that Vianna is not speaking more clearly and in sentences that is understandable to someone outside the family. So now I have to call about speech therapy evaluation Monday. Yeah I don't really feel like dealing with them again.

well that's all for now.

finaly doing it

2005-07-07T01:37:00.000-04:00

Well im finaly getting my web store up and running. I still dont have all the products that i want in it. But you can check it out by clicking here . check it out and let me know what you think.

the kids are doing great. Vianna is in the terrible 2's and is now telling me no all the time. she is going to drive me crazy.

Nathanial has 4 teeth now. so he's in a bitting mood. not on purpose just because he wants naw on everything.

well gonna go to bed.

Long time no Wright

2005-06-23T14:42:00.000-04:00

I know its been a while since I wrote. But since I started working I have been so tired that I haven't had a chance to Wright. Work is great. I don't mind the hours I have been getting. The perverts on another hand can drive you crazy. I cant believe that people would call up and be as sick as they are and there calling about a bed or coffee maker. Nothing sexual. Crazy people. Man are they funny. I feel sorry for them because I think they do it to embarrass someone but with me it doesn't bother me. So sorry they cant get a rise out of me and they soon hang up the phone.

And for my family. Vianna is going threw the terrible 2's. So she is driving me crazy. She screams for no reason and will tell me no when I tell her not to do something. I cant wait till she out grows this stage.

Nathanial is doing great. He's cutting teeth and so he's kind cranky. But that's not bad.

It's 4:33 A.M.

2005-06-17T04:33:00.000-04:00

It's 4:33 A.M.

And I just finished my shift. The thing that sucks is I woke up at 2 a.m. (thought hubby forgot to set the alarm for 2:30 A.M.), and my shift was from 3:30-4:00 A.M. This mornings shift was nice though. Everyone who called was pleasant and not rude. I don't mind the shifts but like right now, I could have went back to bed after my 1/2 hr. Shift. But hubbies alarm will be going off at like 4:45 and it takes me a little bit to fall asleep. So I am just sitting here.

The kids are asleep, and they are so sweet when there asleep. Its kind of nice to be able to sit here and relax without someone screaming or fussing at me. The only problem is I start to think about Jonathan. When IM asleep and start to dream about him, my mind will change the channel. But when IM awake its a little harder to do. Then I start to wonder about why my little child died, when I use to do a lot of stupid stuff and IM still around. (DO NOT TAKE OFFENCE AT WHAT I'M ABOUT TO SAY.) Because of his death, the fact that he had been threw so much I really do doubt that there is a god. I know that his spirit went to another baby. I don't believe when you die you go to heaven, I believe in reincarnation. When you die your soul, spirit (what ever you want to call it) moves to the next life. How you live this one is what decides what you come back as in the next. I know most people do not believe in that or agree. But I don't believe that you have to go to a building to pray to a god that isn't there. I don't believe in them saying that you should give 10% of your paycheck. And I don't believe that a priest should be getting paid. If its a religious calling then serving there god should be payment enough.

well sorry for the rambling, hubbies alarm clock just went off, so IM off to bed..

have a great day.

What a fun day

2005-06-16T11:24:00.000-04:00

What a fun day,(yeah right)

I have to go to WIC today. And I dont realy want to. Vianna is driving me crazy. She is running around like a chicken with her head choped off. Nathanial is being good but thats only because hes not old enought to get in trouble.

well my shift went great this morning. i only had 2 mean people, and that was only because they didnt pay attition to the comercials. had one guy that swears he had the right number (and doesnt), and then the woman that thought this number was for the welcome center for Arkansaw. But other than that everything was just fine. Im a little tired but thats to be expected.

So how is everyone else doing today???

Oh and my friend Kat is haveing an earing sale... So everyone should go and check them out. They are all so pretty.... So rember if you have a friend or family member with a birthday comeing up, it would be a good time to get them jewlery that is hand made.

Everyone have a great day...

my job

2005-06-15T13:34:00.000-04:00

My Job.

Well I started the work at home this morning (early this morning). And my first shift i had trouble because i couldn't log onto the call board. So needless to say that whole shift sucked. Well i picked another shift for this after noon, started haveing the same problems but this time the person i called actualy helped me. So i finaly was able to take calls. Granted it was only for about 10-15 min., if that. I had one call and then my shift was over. I was so nervous, didn't think I would be. But hopefuly tomarrow morning will be better. Counting since all the shifts are in CST. So tomarrow morning from 2 - 4 am I'll be takeing calls.

well thats all for this.

Finely

2005-06-14T16:50:00.000-04:00

FINELY

I finely received my congrats email from the work at home. So I have sent up some hours and unfortunately they are going to be early in the morning. So far here is what I have.

Thursday 2-2:30 A.M
Friday 2:30- 3 AM
SAT. 3:30-4 am
Sun. 3:30-4 am.

IM hopeing to get some more time in but right now this is all I could get.

wish me luck everyone...

Tuesday Morning

2005-06-14T09:08:00.000-04:00

Tuesday Morning and i got woken up to Vianna screaming. for no real reason she was just screaming. Nathanial was fussing but only because the bottle he had was empty.

Of course I almost hit my hubby when he came in to give me a kiss good bye (which is something he does every morning) but for some reason this morning i woke up with his face over me, and i was so jumpy. Hes use to me doing that once in a wile so he just goes" I'm just giving you a kiss goodbye."

Plans for today.

Well it looks like its about to rain and poor at any moment. So were going to be stuck in the house all day. I do plan on getting the floor swept if the kids will let me.

I'm going to try to work on my scrapbook again if the kids let me.

In less than a month my little girl is going to be 2 years old. I cant believe that shes going to be 2. Its a scary thing. I still think of her as my little girl, like a little baby that I have just brought home from the hospital. Everyday I see how big she is getting. And its just so amazing. And dont get me wrong i know every parent says this, but shes so smart. She still has problems with her speaking but thats only because she is trying to talk to fast and she's going to have her daddys Texan draw.

Its hard to believe that Nathanial is 8 months. My kids are getting so big too quick.

The scary thing for me to think about is the fact that Jonathan would have been 5 next month. Its hard enough to know that it has been 3 years since i lost him, 3 years that i havent been able to see him grow and learn. But the fact that he will be 5 this year. It tares me up inside. He would have started school this year. I dont mean to bore anyone with my always harping about jonathan.

well all for now.

my photo album

2005-06-13T23:10:00.000-04:00

PLEASE CHECK OUT MY PHOTO ALBUM UNDER MY LINKS ON THE LEFT.

THANKS

2005-06-13T22:37:00.000-04:00

jonathan and his girlfriend. taken right before he passed away

i am so sick

2005-06-13T20:08:00.000-04:00

I have been so sick. My stomach is so upset and now I just wish it would stop.

On the mommy board a friend of mine found this blog of a 16 year old boy who just told his parents about being gay and now there sending him to a camp to make him be strait. Heres his blog address http://blog.myspace.com/index.cfm?fuseaction=blog.ListAll&friendID=7428306&Mytoken=20050604221047

But to let you know what this camp is all about.

Refuge Program RulesExceptions to program rules will be granted by C.O.C. (Chain of Command) only.
Sobriety

One of the core functions of the Refuge is the common pursuit of corporate sobriety from sin. The program strives to perpetuate a safe environment that is ripe for growth and for hearing from God. The sobriety of each individual is a key focus.
Galatians 5:19 - 21: 19 Now the works of the flesh are obvious, which are: adultery, sexual immorality, uncleanness, lustfulness, 20 idolatry, sorcery, hatred, strife, jealousies, outbursts of anger, rivalries, divisions, heresies, 21 envying, murders, drunkenness, orgies, and things like these; of which I forewarn you, even as I also forewarned you, that those who practice such things will not inherit the kingdom of God.
1 Corinthians 6:12-15: 12 "All things are lawful for me," but not all things are expedient. "All things are lawful for me," but I will not be brought under the power of anything. 13 "Foods for the belly, and the belly for foods," but God will bring to nothing both it and them. But the body is not for sexual immorality, but for the Lord; and the Lord for the body. 14 Now God raised up the Lord, and will also raise us up by his power. 15 Don't you know that your bodies are members of Christ? Will I then take away the members of Christ, and make them members of a prostitute? Certainly not!1 Corinthians 6:18: 18 Flee sexual immorality. "Every sin that a man does is outside the body," but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body.

1 Thessalonians 4:2-5: 2For you know what charge we gave you through the Lord Jesus. 3 For this is the will of God: your sanctification, that you abstain from sexual immorality, 4 that each one of you know how to possess himself of his own vessel in sanctification and honor, 5 not in the passion of lust...

1. No smoking, alcohol, drugs, or inappropriate use of over-the-counter medications. All prescription drugs and over-the-counter medications must be left in the care of a parent or guardian, who will administer them when necessary. Refuge clients may not have prescription or over-the-counter drugs in their possession at any time, exceptions by C.O.C. approval only.

2. No sexual/emotional misconduct. Any temptations, fantasies, or dreams are to be presented to one¹s staff worker only. Sexual misconduct includes viewing pornography, visiting an adult bookstore, emotional dependency, voyeurism, stalking, masturbation, mutual masturbation, or any form of genital or sexual contact with another person. Sexual temptation, as well as the above, is not to be discussed between clients. This includes MI's (Moral Inventories) written on current sexual struggles or temptations).

3. No hugging or physical touch between clients. Brief handshakes or a brief affirmative hand on a shoulder is allowed (exception is when observed by therapeutic accountability).4. Clients are to remain within the ³safe zone² while in the program. This "zone" is illustrated on a map of the Memphis area in the office. An exception is for clients who reside or are staying outside the safe zone, and commuting to the Love in Action campus.

Hygiene
Small unhealthy habits can either reflect or lead to dysfunctional, life-controlling habits. Attention to the details of daily lifestyle is a pivotal aspect of residential recovery.
Luke 10:27: 27 He answered, "You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart, with all your soul, with all your strength, and with all your mind; and your neighbor as yourself."
Luke 16:10: 10 He who is faithful in a very little is faithful also in much. He who is unrighteous in a very little is also unrighteous in much.
1 Corinthians 6:19-20: 19 Or don't you know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit which is in you, which you have from God? You are not your own, 20 for you were bought with a price. Therefore glorify God in your body and in your spirit, which are God's.
Psalm 139:13-14: 13 For you formed my inmost being. You knit me together in my mother's womb. 14 I will give thanks to you, For I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Your works are wonderful. My soul knows that very well.1.

All clients must maintain appropriate hygiene, including daily showering, use of deodorant, and brushing teeth twice daily.

Men: Men must remove all facial hair seven days weekly, and sideburns must not fall below the top of the ear (the top of the ear is defined as where the ear meets the face below the temple). Clean business-like haircuts must be worn at all times. Hair must be long enough to be pinched between two fingers.

Women: Women must shave legs and underarms at least twice weekly.All: Only natural hair color is allowed. Hair that is colored, highlighted or streaked, mut be dyed back to its original color, or the color must be cut out before entrance into the Refuge program.

2. Attire: General Modesty is expected. No tight, provocative, or suggestive clothing or spandex may be worn. No provocative or suggestive mannerisms are permitted. Fresh undergarments are to be worn at all times. Boxer shorts of any kind are considered underwear and are not to be worn as outer clothing. All clients must be dressed appropriately in clean, unwrinkled clothes when leaving the house for the day.

Men may not wear any jewelry (other than a watch and a wedding band) unless approved through a C.O.C. In addition to a watch and wedding band, women may also wear a pair of simple earrings (one earring per ear.) The clients may not wear Abercrombie and Fitch or Calvin Klein brand clothing, undergarments, or accessories.

Men: Shirts are to be worn at all times, even while sleeping. T-shirts without sleeves are not permitted at any time, whether worn as an outer garment or an undergarment. This includes ³muscle shirts² or other tank-tops. Bikini-style underwear is prohibited.

Women: Bras must be worn at all times, except while sleeping. Thong-style underwear is prohibited.

Attire: LIA Campus In addition to the General Attire above, the following items apply. No torn, ragged, or stained clothing is to be worn at any time while on campus. Monday through Thursday, clients must wear pants, a clean shirt, and shoes or sandals with socks. Jeans and a nice t-shirt are acceptable. On Friday, clients may wear clean, knee-length khaki or denim-style shorts.

No athletic or excessively baggy shorts may be worn on campus at any time. No hats, jackets, or overcoats are to be worn on campus

Women: In addition to these guidelines, women may also wear skirts which fall at or below the knee.

Women may wear tank-tops only if they are worn with an over-blouse. Women may wear open-toed shoes or women¹s dress sandals without socks. Bras must be worn at all times, except while sleeping. Sports bras may only be worn while working out.

No sleeveless blouses may be worn. All blouses and t-shirts must fit modestly (not extremely tight).

3. No cologne, perfume, or use of other highly scented hygiene products. Therapeutic & Staff Issues

A goal of the Source is to be purposeful and strategic in order to help clients pursue growth and transformation. The principles below are common elements of this plan.

Romans 13:1-5: 1 Let every soul be in subjection to the higher authorities, for there is no authority except from God, and those who be are ordained by God. 2 Therefore he who resists the authority, withstands theordinance of God; and those who withstand will receive to themselves judgment. 3 For rulers are not a terror to the good work, but to the evil. Do you desire to have no fear of the authority? Do that which is good, and you will have praise from the same, 4 for he is a servant of God to you for good. But if you do that which is evil, be afraid, for he doesn't bear the sword in vain; for he is a minister of God, an avenger for wrath to him who does evil. 5 Therefore you need to be in subjection, not only because of the wrath, but also for conscience¹s sake.

Hebrews 13:17: 17 Obey those who have the rule over you, and submit to them, for they watch on behalf of your souls, as those who will give account, that they may do this with joy, and not with groaning, for that would be unprofitable for you.

1. HONESTY AT ALL TIMES.
2. IF IN DOUBT, DON¹T. ASK FIRST.
3. All clients are expected to memorize the Program Expectations as they summarize the spirit and heart of the rules of Love in Action.
4. All Refuge program members must complete four MI's (Moral Inventories) per week unless otherwise instructed. Detailed instruction on writing MI¹s will be provided within the first few days of beginning the program.
5. Refuge clients will be prepared to give an Introduction (³Intro²) at every Intro Rap. Detailed instruction on giving an intro will be provided within the first few days of the program.
6. To make special requests of the staff or inform the staff of something (e.g. asking permission to leave the safe zone for some reason, informing the staff of a breach in program rules, etc.), Refuge clients must communicate appropriately. This means filling out a Chain of Command (C.O.C.) form. All C.O.C.¹s must be signed by the Refuge client¹s parent or guardian before being submitted to a staff member, or the C.O.C. will be returned with no answer. All C.O.C.¹s must be concise and not ³story tell² or ³whine.² Such will be returned with no reply.
7. No continuing education while in the program. Home-school Refuge clients may be allowed to continue their studies during the program, pending approval by LIA staff.

6. Refuge clients and their parents/guardians are required to attend Love in Action¹s host church, Germantown Baptist Church, on Sunday mornings. More information about GBC can be found online at
www.gbconline.net.
7. Parents and guardians are expected to attend the Friends and Family support group on Thursday nights from 7:00 p.m. to 8:30 p.m., held at the Love in Action campus. Refuge clients will be supervised during this time by a Love in Action staff member.

8. Refuge clients and their parents/guardians are expected to attend Love in Action¹s Open Meetings whenever they occur, held on the first Tuesday of every month at Kirby Woods Baptist Church at 7:30 p.m.
9. Refuge clients are expected to maintain a committed pursuit of a positive and thankful attitude.
10. Absolutely no journaling or keeping a diary outside of the MI process unless directed or approved by staff.
11. Absolutely no calling staff outside business hours unless it is an emotional, therapeutic, or physical emergency, or unless prior permission from staff has been obtained.
12. Additional (i.e. beyond one per week) one-on-one counseling sessions will be granted by C.O.C. appointment only.
False Image (FI) Concerns
Through the Source, God renews clients¹ minds and lives, helping them to put off the old self and put on the new. False images are items or behaviors that are of the old self.

Proverbs 8:6-8: 6 Hear, for I will speak excellent things. The opening of my lips is for right things. 7 For my mouth speaks truth. Wickedness is an abomination to my lips. 8 All the words of my mouth are in righteousness. There is nothing crooked or perverse in them.

Ephesians 4:17-25: 17 This I say therefore, and testify in the Lord, that you no longer walk as the rest of the Gentiles also walk, in the futility of their mind, 18 being darkened in their understanding, alienated from the life of God, because of the ignorance that is in them, because of the hardening of their hearts; 19 who having become callous gave themselves up to lust, to work all uncleanness with greediness. 20 But you did not learn Christ that way; 21 if indeed you heard him, and were taught in him, even as truth is in Jesus: 22 that you put away, as concerning your former way of life, the old man, that grows corrupt after the lusts of deceit; 23 and that you be renewed in the spirit of your mind, 24 and put on the new man, that like God has been created in righteousness and holiness of truth. 25 Therefore, putting away falsehood, speak truth each one with his neighbor. For we are members one of another.
1. LIA wants to encourage each client, male and female, by affirming his/her gender identity. LIA also wants each client to pursue integrity in all of his/her actions and appearances. Therefore, any belongings, appearances, clothing, actions, or humor that might connect a client to an inappropriate past are excluded from the program. These hindrances are called False Images (FI¹s). FI behavior may include hyper-masculinity, seductive clothing, mannish/boyish attire (on women), excessive jewelry (on men), mascoting, and "campy" or gay/lesbian behavior and talk.

2. As non-residential clients, Refuge participants must submit to an F.I. search every morning. With the exception of the very first program day, when they may arrive no later than 9:00 a.m., Refuge clients will arrive daily at the Love in Action campus no later than 8:50 a.m., waiting in a designated area until a staff member meets them to perform the F.I. search and check them in. Refuge clients may not enter any of the client spaces on campus before submitting to an F.I. search. All belongings brought to campus will be searched, including book bags, notebooks, wallets, handbags, purses, etc. Items that violate the F.I. policy or the dress code will be held for the client, to be returned no later than the client¹s last day in program. Clients may request to have their F.I. items returned by filling out a C.O.C.

3. All photographs will be taken for the purpose of sobering re-evaluation. Clients may request to have pictures returned to them via C.O.C.

4. Refuge clients will not be allowed to use personally owned computers during the program, whether on campus or at home/in temporary lodging. Computer stations are normally available on campus when clients need to type something.

5. Clients should report all FI's (with discretion), whether their own or another's, to staff.

Campus RulesLIA honors clients¹ confidentiality and time. A campus structure has been established that will ensure a fair and balanced approach to every client.

1 Corinthians 14:40 Let all things be done decently and in order.

1. No visiting or entering staff offices unless prior permission is given.

2. While on the LIA campus, Refuge clients must be in phase at all times, whether indoors or out of doors. A client is ³in phase² when he or she is with two or more other clients (whether Refuge or residential,) one of whom must have been in the program for at least eight weeks. Exceptions to phase rules will be granted by C.O.C. request only.

3. Further campus rules which are still being developed and revised will be communicated to Refuge clients on their arrival.

Relationship IssuesEmotional dependency and inappropriate sexual behaviors have their roots in unresolved relationship issues as well as poor personal or relational boundaries. As a key part to his/her recovery, each client¹s program will focus significant attention on resolving relationship concerns and cultivating healthy relationships, both within and outside of the program. Psalm 133:1-3: 1 See how good and how pleasant it is for brothers to live together in unity! 2 It is like the precious oil on the head, That ran down on the beard, Even Aaron's beard; That came down on the edge of his robes; 3 Like the dew of Hermon, That comes down on the hills of Zion: For there Yahweh gives the blessing, Even life forevermore.

Romans 15:5-6: 5 Now the God of patience and of comfort grant you to be of the same mind one with another according to Christ Jesus, 6 that with one accord you may with one mouth glorify the God and Father of our Lord Jesus

Christ.John 17:22 The glory which you have given me, I have given to them; that they may be one, even as we are one.

Ephesians 4:1-3: 1 I therefore, the prisoner in the Lord, beg you to walk worthily of the calling with which you were called, 2 with all lowliness and humility, with long suffering, bearing with one another in love; 3 being eager to keep the unity of the Spirit in the bond of peace.

1. No physical violence or physically threatening dialogue. Violation of this rule warrants immediate dismissal from the program.

2. No breaching another person's confidentiality to anyone outside the program.

3. No talking behind another person's back (TBB).

4. The 24-hour rule is to be used after challenging another client who is in breach of the program rules. If one notices that another client¹s inappropriate behavior continues, the client should be challenged to report to staff. If in 24 hours he/she has not done so, one is required to report the breach to staff via C.O.C. or verbal communication.

5. Due to the nature of many gender identity struggles, issues of enmeshment and emotional dependency can develop not only with same sex, but sometimes even more easily with the opposite sex. Because healthy and appropriate same and opposite-sex relationships are encouraged, dating and exclusive relationships of any kind are prohibited while in the program.

6. Clients may have no contact with anyone who has left the program prior to graduating without the blessing of the staff to do so. Clients may address off-limit persons they inadvertently encounter with a polite "hello" only.

7. While in the program, clients may have no contact with anyone involved in unrepentant emotional dependencies, inappropriate sexual behaviors, or chemical dependencies. This includes any contact with friends struggling with dependency issues or inappropriate sexual behavior that was known about prior to entering the program. If such a person is encountered, the client must make his/her staff worker aware of this.

8. Refuge clients and their parents/guardians will be participating in off-campus events and meetings where non-program strugglers are in attendance. To encourage the safety of all involved, clients are required to be in phase when communicating with non-program strugglers at these meetings, and will be prohibited from establishing contact with them outside of the these meetings.

Safekeeping Rules

1. All new Refuge clients will be placed into Safekeeping for the initial two to three days of their program. A client on safekeeping may not communicate verbally, or by using hand gestures or eye contact, with any other clients, staff members, or his/her parents or guardians. In case of a practical need, Safekeeping clients may write down their question or request and show it to another client, staff member, or their parent or guardian. Writing may only be used when absolutely necessary. Parents and guardians must enforce their child¹s safekeeping status at home or in their temporary lodging.

2. Refuge clients may C.O.C. to be removed from Safekeeping status. Safekeeping clients will be removed from Safekeeping at their staffworker¹s discretion.

3. Any client may be placed into Safekeeping at any time, at a staffworker¹s discretion.

4. Safekeeping clients are permitted to say ³hello² and to communicate enough information to be courteous in public interaction (mostly in the clients¹ church setting).

5. Safekeeping clients are required to spend a minimum of two hours (in one sitting) a day alone in their room (note: by ³alone² it is understood that parents or guardians can be in the room but are not to interact or disrupt the alone time of the safekeeping client). During the alone time Safekeeping clients may work on their treatment plans, read program materials or the Bible, pray, or work on other assignments from their staffworkers.

6. In the evenings, all Refuge Safekeeping clients must remain at home or at their temporary lodging with their parent or guardian (i.e. no going out to eat, to the store, etc. during Safekeeping.)

7. Non-Safekeeping clients are responsible to protect and uphold the Safekeeping parameters of the Safekeeping clients.

Rules for the Home/Temporary Lodging

Hebrews 6:11-12: 11 We desire that each one of you may show the same diligence to the fullness of hope even to the end, 12 that you won't be sluggish, but imitators of those who through faith and patience inherited the promises.

Ephesians 4:22-24: 22 that you put away, as concerning your former way of life, the old man, that grows corrupt after the lusts of deceit; 23 and that you be renewed in the spirit of your mind, 24 and put on the new man, that like God has been created in righteousness and holiness of truth.

Refuge encourages all clients to first focus internally. Why is the client here? What is broken? What is the core motivation of the client¹s unhealthy behavior? Staff members will work with clients as they learn what is wrong and as they take the steps to articulate it. Second, staff emphasize the need for each client to seek the truth of God. What does He have to say about each client and his/her pain? The rules that follow are designed to both protect the client and facilitate his/her wrestling with God.

Colossians 3:9-10: 9 Don't lie to one another, seeing that you have put off the old man with his doings, 10 and have put on the new man, that is being renewed in knowledge after the image of his Creator...1

Kings 9:4: 4 As for you, if you will walk before me, as David your father walked, in integrity of heart, and in uprightness, to do according to all that I have commanded you, and will keep my statutes and my ordinances...

Psalm 7:8-9: 8 Yahweh administers judgment to the peoples. Judge me, Yahweh, according to my righteousness, And to my integrity that is in me.9 Oh let the wickedness of the wicked come to an end, But establish the righteous; Their minds and hearts are searched by the righteous God.Proverbs 10:9: 9 He who walks blamelessly walks surely, But he who perverts his ways will be found out.

Proverbs 11:2-3: 2 When pride comes, then comes shame, But with humility comes wisdom. 3 The integrity of the upright shall guide them, But the perverseness of the treacherous shall destroy them.

Proverbs 13:13: 13 Whoever despises instruction will pay for it, But he who respects a command will be rewarded.

Proverbs 20:7: 7 A righteous man who walks in his integrity, Blessed are his children after him.

Genesis 32:24-28: 24 Jacob was left alone, and wrestled with a man there until the breaking of the day. 25 When he saw that he didn't prevail against him, he touched the hollow of his thigh, and the hollow of Jacob's thigh was strained, as he wrestled. 26 The man said, "Let me go, for the day breaks." Jacob said, "I won't let you go, unless you bless me." 27 He said to him, "What is your name?" He said, "Jacob." 28 He said, "Your name will no longer be called 'Jacob,' but, 'Israel,' for you have fought with God and with men, and have prevailed."1

Chronicles 29:18: 18 Yahweh, the God of Abraham, of Isaac, and of Israel, our fathers, keep this forever in the imagination of the thoughts of the heart of your people, and prepare their heart to you...

Isaiah 49:13-15: 13 Sing, heavens; and be joyful, earth; and break forth into singing, mountains: for Yahweh has comforted his people, and will have compassion on his afflicted. 14 But Zion said, Yahweh has forsaken me, and the Lord has forgotten me. 15 Can a woman forget her sucking child, that she should not have compassion on the son of her womb? Yes, these may forget, yet I will not forget you.

Matthew 9:36: 36 But when he saw the multitudes, he was moved with compassion for them, because they were weary and scattered, as sheep without a shepherd.

Matthew 14:14: 14 Jesus went out, and he saw a great multitude. He had compassion on them, and healed their sick.

Matthew 20:34: 34 Jesus, being moved with compassion, touched their eyes; and immediately their eyes received their sight, and they followed him.Luke 10:40-42: 40 But Martha was distracted with much serving, and she came up to him, and said, "Lord, don't you care that my sister left me to serve alone? Ask her therefore to help me." 41 Jesus answered her, "Martha, Martha, you are anxious and troubled about many things, 42 but one thing is needed. Mary has chosen the good part, which will not be taken away from her."Luke 10:29-30: 29 Jesus said, "Most assuredly I tell you, there is no one who has left house, or brothers, or sisters, or father, or mother, or wife, or children, or land, for my sake, and for the gospel's sake, 30 but he will receive one hundred times now in this time, houses, brothers, sisters, mothers, children, and land, with persecutions; and in the age to come eternal life.

Exodus 20:12: 12 "Honor your father and your mother, that your days may be long in the land which Yahweh your God gives you.

Malachi 4:6: 6 He will turn the hearts of the fathers to the children, and the hearts of the children to their fathers, lest I come and strike the earth with a curse."

1. No discussing therapeutic issues at home. Keep conversations positive.

2. Clients must gain permission through C.O.C. to make or receive phone calls from friends and family members outside the program.

3. No cell phones, beepers, computers, or e-mail/internet access at. Exceptions by C.O.C. approval only.

4. No visitors from out of town without permission via C.O.C.

5. Refuge clients may only read materials approved by staff.

6. No television viewing, going to movies, or reading/watching/listening to secular media of any kind, anywhere within the client¹s and the parent¹s/guardian¹s control. This includes listening to classical or instrumental music that is not expressly Christian (Beethoven, Bach, etc. are not considered Christian). The only exception to the media policy is the weekly movie.

7. Refuge clients may watch one video/DVD per week that has been approved by staff via C.O.C. Movies submitted for approval must be rated G or PG. The parents/guardians are responsible for securing the video/DVD.

8. Weekend curfew (Friday and Saturday) is 10:00pm. Weekday curfew (Sunday through Thursday) is 9:30pm.

9. Refuge clients must be with at least one parent or guardian at all times when off-campus.

10. On certain occasions Refuge clients have the opportunity, with the C.O.C. approval and their parent/guardian¹s permission, to visit the residential houses of the Source program clients. On these occasions Refuge clients must be in phase at all times, and must abide by all the house rules and follow instructions given by Source program house managers. House rules will be communicated to Refuge clients as the need arises. Refuge clients are encouraged to ask for clarification if they are unsure about a particular house rule.

11. Refuge clients may not enter any restuarants with bars, even when accompanied by a parent or guardian.

12. Refuge clients must be accompanied by a parent during any trip to a public restroom.

13. No access to malls of any kind.

14. Clients are not allowed to visit any video, music or media stores that are not expressly Christian, even if accompanied by a parent or guardian. Clients may visit LifeWay Christian stores with a parent or guardian.

15. Refuge clients must report off-casmpus emergencies, illnesses, or injuries to their parents/guardians as soon as possible. Parents/guardians are required to inform LIA staff members of such situations by phone as soon as possible.

16. Total silence time at home begins at 9:00 p.m. Sunday through Thursday. Refuge clients may use this time for resting, but are encouraged to make a habit of using it for a nightly quiet time with God.

17. Lights-out time will begin each night at 10:00 p.m. Sunday through Thursday.

18. Refuge clients are allowed a one-time 15-minute maximum closed bathroom door time for shower/grooming purposes. The only other closed-door alone time allowed is for using the restroom.

19. Refuge clients must keep their bedroom doors open at all times, day or night.

20. Proper bedclothes must be worn during nighttime sleeping hours. Appropriate bedclothes include full pajamas (tops and bottoms) or a pair of non-underwear-type shorts and a T-shirt. Nightgowns are not allowed.

21. Refuge clients are expected to eat dinner with their parents/guardians/other family members (if any) at least four times per week.

22. Refuge clients are expected to cook dinner one time per week.

On-Level Rules³On-Level² is a protective and therapeutic measure that is sometimes implemented between clients who are having relational difficulties.

1. On-level clients may not speak to each other unless there is a potentially life-threatening emergency.

2. On-level clients are to spend no time alone with each other.

3. On-level clients are not allowed to ride in the same car unless C.O.C. permission has been granted, in which case, one must sit in the front of the car, and one must sit in the back of the car.

4. On-level clients, whenever in the same room, must always have exactly one person between them, whether sitting or standing. Planned activities such as church, Open Meetings, and socials are no exception.

5. On-level status can be initiated by any staff member or house manager.

6. On-level status can be removed only by Executive Staff.

Group Norms

1. Be honest, authentic, and real.

2. Active participation is expected. This includes body language and eye contact. No slouching in chairs, sitting back on chairs hind legs, sitting with arms crossed, rolling eyes, or making disgusting faces.

3. No attacking or demeaning another person¹s character.

4. Raise hand to speak. Speak one at a time as called on by the facilitator.

5. Maintain strict confidentiality of everything discussed in group. "What is seen here, what is heard here, remains here!"

6. Clients are to sit in such a way as to not cause another to stumble.

7. No food or drink during rap. This includes chewing gum and toothpicks.

8. Appropriate attire is required. No hats, athletic or baggy shorts (for men), or extremely short skirts (for women) are allowed.

9. Say "I love you _____" after each person is finished relating.

10. Be on time!

11. Do not talk at, preach to, or teach one another. Each person should keep the focus on him/herself and how he/she feels.

12. Do not be defensive. While being spoken to, one may not respond to defend him/herself or return confrontation to the person speaking.

13. If one needs to leave the group for any reason, he/she must ask permission from the staff in charge of the group session.

14. Stand when speaking, relating, or being related to. During general raps, one must stand while relating. One must also stand when someone is being given feedback or being related to. Standing is not necessary during teaching raps.
Men/Women DynamicsThe following common courtesies apply to relational dynamics between men and women. While these are not rules and may initially feel a little awkward, they are strongly encouraged as practical guidelines to promote mutual respect and honor. It is LIA¹s hope that these suggestions will become common practices and help to nurture a value of self and an appreciation for others.

Places of Honor for Women:Respect for women may be shown by offering them first priority in a number of ways:

1. Please invite women (not just LIA clients) to be the first in line to eat.

2. Encourage women to accept the more comfortable seats in a room. Men should consider offering a woman their chair when there are none left in the room.

3. Men should think about opening doors for women, both when entering a building and when entering a car. This simply adds a level of respect, consideration, and value.

Honoring Both Genders:

Be mindful of the types of humor and communication used around one another. Jesting about bodily functions, discussing gender-specific issues when not in rap sessions (at the LIA office), and other conversation which could potentially be inappropriate to the opposite sex should be avoided.

Program Expectations
Therapeutic & Interpersonal Expectations

1. Clients are expected to affirm one another and edify their personal and corporate pursuit of growth and transformation. This includes a commitment to courageous honesty with respect, a commitment to sobriety in all manners of talk, action, and dress, the exercise of prudence, and honoring confidentiality and accountability.

2. Clients are expected to take responsibility for their environment and to inform appropriate authorities of program breaches. This is to be done using the 24-hour rule.

3. Clients are expected to give back. This includes watching out for one¹s brothers and sisters. It also includes the initiative of upper-phasers to provide accountability for lower-phasers.

4. Clients are expected to maintain a committed pursuit of a positive and thankful attitude.

5. Clients are expected to avoid peer-to-peer physical touch. Brief handshakes or a brief affirmative hand on a shoulder is allowed.

6. Clients are expected to actively identify and subsequently remove all personal and corporate FI¹s.

7. Clients are expected to avoid therapeutic topics of discussion with House Managers.

8. Clients are expected to make their homework a priority. Phase 1 clients must complete four MI¹s per week unless otherwise instructed. Phase 2 & Training clients must complete two MI¹s per week unless otherwise instructed. Phase 1 clients will be prepared to do an Introduction at every Introduction Rap. All clients will be assigned a personalized treatment plan.

9. Clients are expected to plan ahead and communicate appropriately, following Chain of Command (C.O.C.) for any information or communication with staff.

Practical Expectations

1. All clients must maintain integrity in their personal presentation. This includes daily grooming and hygiene maintenance, bed-making, as well as regular bedroom and bathroom cleaning and maintenance.

2. Clients are expected to work either therapeutically or professionally Monday through Friday unless prior permission is granted through C.O.C. Clients who are not working are expected to be in the office.

3. Clients are expected to actively re-evaluate the influences of secular media. Phase 1 clients are restricted from television-viewing, internet access, secular media, or reading of any kind without specific permission. Clients may not enter any non-Christian bookstores. Phase 2 clients may use email and the internet at work for work purposes. Training program clients may listen to secular music. However, they may not listen to secular radio for the first 30 days. No secular music is allowed in residences or when around Phase 1 clients.

4. Clients are expected to honor their home environment by being on-time with cooking responsibilities, attending all weekly house meetings, dinner attendance, curfew, total silence, lights out, and by working cooperatively to complete all stewardships with a positive attitude.

5. Clients are expected to remain accountable with all relationships. No cell phones, phone calls, or contact with anyone outside the program without prior permission. Phase 2 and Training Program clients may make approved relational phone calls.

Refuge Program Parental Rules (not to be given to client)

1. No discussing therapeutic issues at home. Keep conversations positive.

2. Clients are to be picked up from the LIA office no later than 5:00pm each weekday.

3. Respect all Love In Action and Refuge rules. If you do not understand them, support the program in front of client at all times and gain clarification from LIA staff. Do not sabotage or defocus your client.

4. Don¹t allow client to split your family. Unite to present stability and unity.

5. Your client is not allowed to talk to anyone outside of your home including friends or family. Do not tell client who has called for them or who is asking about them. Keep the thoughts of the client focused on his/her treatment.

6. The family needs interactive time together. It is very important that togetherness is the priority during this time. The client does not need extended time alone or with only one family member. The only exception is for Refuge clients who are from out-of-town and staying with a significant guardian while here.

7. Family dinner is encouraged to occur at least four times weekly.

8. The client is expected to cook dinner at least one time weekly.

9. The client is expected to complete a weekly cleaning regimen to your satisfaction.

10. Parents/guardians are asked to make themselves available for any special meetings deemed necessary for the successful treatment of their loved ones.

11. If there is an ³Open Meeting² during Refuge Program, parents/guardians are asked to attend to enhance their involvement with Refuge. Open meetings are held the first Tuesday of each month at 7:30pm at Kirby Woods Baptist Church (on the corner of Poplar Ave. and Massey; entrance is located at the ground floor on the east side of building entrance).Consequences for Rule

Violation:

1. Constructive criticism from the group.

2. Ten to thirty-page written paper on rule violation.

3. Program dismissal. This does not need to be addressed with the client (The client may sabotage his/her own program due to purposeful dismissal consequences).

4. Isolation from the group.

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As you can tell this is the dumbest thing that i have ever heard of. I dont know how any mother could put there child into a camp like that just because they are gay.

but on other news my kids are fine and every thing with me except this virus that is killing my stomach. im doing just great.

We gave vianna one of her birthday gifts early. only because we gave nathanial one of his to him. his was a walker toy and hers was a keyboard toy with a mic and everything. it is so funny watching her sing on the mic.

well thats all for now.

Blogs i Read

2005-06-07T14:55:00.000-04:00

These are 5 of the blogs that i check out everyday. (granted i dont have to many in the first place.

1) my single mom life - i have became friends with her threw the mommy
group

2) This moms life - i love reading about her kids and to see how sillybaby is
doing.

3) Radical Moma - its just a great blog. reading about her kids.

4) klassemutti's news - one of the other moms from the mommy group.

5) a mom's rambling - and again another one of the moms from the mommy
group that i read usualy every day.

havent been keeping up past couple of days. i had been working on getting everything done for the work at home job.

My day of cleaning

2005-06-06T23:25:00.000-04:00

My day of pealing paint..

well the lady who lived in my house before me thought she was an artice. The whole house was a purple color with this funky border. We have primed the living room and dining kitchen area. And now I have been working on the bathroom. She decided to paint the shower stall and tub area black,and not with bathroom paint. So I have been pealing the paint off for a couple of days now and I am so tired of it. People who take a lot of drugs should not be aloud near paint when there high.

but in other things a friend of mine made me the most beautiful watch and earring set and if you would like a chance to win a bracelet earring set click here and follow instructions. But no matter what you should go check out her stuff. She has breastfeeding necklaces, watches, earrings, ect.

Today when I went to my mommy board I found out that I am now a super mod. Which to most people may not mean that much to them but to me it means that they respect and believe that I want to help.

Vi and nathanial has been little pest today. nathanial has learned to go momma, so I have been hearing that a lot today. And vi just wants to help me with everything, but she's just to little.

I will be doing a work at home job as soon as they get my background check done. For those of you who what that information it is http://www.workathomeagent.com/ so check it out if you want. I don't get credit for sending anyone there.

well that's all for tonight...

Finally came in

2005-06-02T14:33:00.000-04:00

finally came in

well my glasses finally came in, and I can see so much better.

on other news I started my own play group yesterday. I was tired of joining groups that would go to all these parks because they have the season passes. I cant afford the season passes, also with the fact that Vianna is only almost 2 yrs old I don't see the concept. She wouldn't remember anything except maybe the animals. Also since my hubby is the one who works so that I can be a stay at home mom I don't see how it is fair to spend the money going to all of these. And then when he finally has a day off, we don't have any money to do anything as a family. I would rather go to the park with my hubby instead of going with a bunch of other mothers who usually split off into there own private chats and when your the new person you always feel like your butting in where your not wanted. No matter how they act. That's just the way I am. So my little motto is parks are free and that's for me. I'm planning on having it where we go to parks or to each others house and the kids can play and the adults can talk or do crafts. So if you live in pasco county Florida and would like to join just click the link on the left that says pcmampg (pasco county mom and me play group)

well now I'm done venting.

It looks like its going to take a little longer to get my webstore open. There are things hubby isn't for sure about how to do. So were going to get a friend of our to help out if he know what to do. But right now with there work schedules the only day off will probably be Sunday and right now they also have to work on our friends car. I would rather get his car running first and then if any time left work on my sight. That's just the way I am.

About the kids today. Vi and Nathanial are both taking a nap and vi didn't scream for 2 hrs before just falling asleep. Nathanial is gaining a good about of weight on the formula he's finally looking like a 8 month old.

well that's all for right now. Maybe more later..

Still Waiting.

2005-06-01T13:38:00.000-04:00

Still Waiting

I'm still waiting to get my glasses. I hope they come in soon, I am so behind on my posting for my forums.

On there I wish I was somewhere else. My mom calls yesterday and said that dad had called and the transmission went out on there car, and wanted to know if I could go get him. So I get the kids dressed and out the door for the 22 mile drive. And of course I didn't just have to go get them I had to take them looking for a car (which they found one on the side of the road that they could afford). But the guy wanted cash and the banks were closed. So I brought them back to my house so that this morning all I had to do is take them down to the truck to pay the guy. From the time my mom got here until I said fine all I heard was "can I play on the computer for a while" I swear its like having a kid. She doesn't have a computer so everytime she's here she's bugging me. And all she does is play games its not like she's checking email or looking for something, its just the stupid games. Well then my antivirus kept popping up so I had to do some scans and again all I heard is when can I get on. I told her she wouldn't be able to because I was letting it scan all night and just shut the monitor off. She pouted (see what I mean about like a child). I love her to death I'm just glad that we don't live around the corner from her like we did. She was over my house everyday (suppose to be helping with the kids) and on the computer all the time. That and she smokes like a chiminy.

well I guess IM done venting for now. Ill try to Wright more later. Depends on if I get a headache or not.

past couple of days

2005-05-29T10:23:00.000-04:00

Past Couple of Days

Yesterday i went to get my eyes examed and they found that i needed glasses. Yea. But at least they found something wrong. I was getting so tired of everything getting blurry. The only pain in the but is i have to wait till the glasses are done so i havent been able to do much on my mommy board lately. I hate not being able to post on my forum's, I love makeing new threads and helping to keep it upgoing and fun. I know everyone understands and wont say anything but it bugs me..

Well the kids are doing great and i hope everyone has a great Memorial Weekend...

my day.

2005-05-27T13:20:00.000-04:00

My day

Today is a ruff day for me. I have been thinking of my son Jonathan. I miss him so much, and have been realy thinking about him alot lately. And there are times when i cant go on. And then I look at Vi's and Nathanials faces and know i have to go on. After Jonathan died i had to keep it together because of finding out that i was pregnat, and when i lost that baby i had to be the strong one in the family. David was strong and tried to be as strong as could be for me. Im so scared all the time about my kids going to sleep that they wont wake up. I have times that i cant sleep because im so scared. I am hopeing that at some time i will be able to sleep at night without worring like i do. I have been so tired. I just keep going and knowing that my children need me. sorry if this is boreing to some but realy had to get this out and off my chest today.

any one who wants to read about jonathans website can.

my life is going so good

2005-05-27T00:58:00.000-04:00

My life is so good right now.....
my mommy group is back up and running good.were even planning on a dollar swap. just something cute and cheap... While the board was down i was so bord. didnt have any of my other momma's to talk to. i have been kicking but on posting for all the time i missed posting, also i want to help make this the best board out there (i already think it is...)

on other news i'v joined a scrapbooking group and that group is so much fun. anyone who reads this and is into scrapbooking should check it out. i am so glad that i found it.

as far as my kids there great and driving me crazy. gotta love them though.they have been so sweet the other day vianna was so sure that daddy was in the bathroom even when i showed her that he wasnt. she didnt believe me. Nathanial has just been doing so good on the bottle. he loves it.
so its late and im going to bed.
goodnight all.

Good morning

2005-05-25T08:54:00.000-04:00

Good morning.
We'll good morning world. I cant believe it,Nathanial slept all night. A bottle before bed and he slept all night.i woke up this morning at 7:30 and couldn't believe it. And when he did wake up I got him a bottle and he was so happy and drank it and went back to sleep. I think that he's not going to be as fussy because now he is getting enough. Thought I would be upset about not being able to nurse, but instead I'm glad that he's happy. Well that's all for this morning.

My Night

2005-05-24T20:50:00.000-04:00

My Night

I finally found a template for my store and I have been working with Dreamweaver and working on the look. I'm not sure that I will keep it but it works right now and it has everything that I need on it. But hubby has been having a real neck ache. He has one hell of pulled muscle. So I've been rubbing his neck and putting muscle rub on it every night. I hope that it gets better soon.

The kids were driving me crazy tonight so Vi got put to bed. And unfortunately Nathanial was put on a bottle. He's a lot happier now. I'm guessing that I wasn't producing enough. I wanted to nurse till he was a year old, but ill just deal with the fact that I nursed him till he was over 7 month.

well that all for tonight. I hope all of you sweet dreams and loving thoughts.

Today

2005-05-24T10:39:00.000-04:00

Today
Well today has been fun. Both kids are screaming. Got them up and fed and let them play. The weather is lousy so we cant go to a park or anywhere. I hate to take them out when the weather is bad. So after a lot of fits and whining they are now down for a nap.

Been looking for different backgrounds for the website, haven't found anything yet. It is hard to figure out a background when your going to be selling a mixture of different items. I was going to try to find a dog putting on lotion while playing playstation. But I thought that might be a little funny.

I must do dishes today. I cant wait till I get a dishwasher.. The kids always want to be right behind me while I'm doing dishes. And with Nathanial in his walker he's an ankle biter.

Well gonna go want a cig. And we only smoke out in the garage.

What's going on with me

2005-05-24T00:06:00.000-04:00

What's going on with me

Well we went to walmart today, and hubby got himself another guitar. He has been wanting a brand new one. So we got it. We also got everything out of layway. And I got some craft stuff. So were all happy.

When I got home I made a final decision and have gotten myself a website. It wont be up for a couple of days maybe a week. But when it gets going the web address is http://www.josephinesstuffplus.com . I will be selling pet products along with health and beauty. Haven't decided weather or not to sell electronic.
I am hopeing not to become a millionare, but maybe just add some to the budget and help out with the bills. I am so lucky to have a husband who has no problem with me being a sahm and understands that it is more important for me to be with my kids at home. Then for me to work and have a nanny or daycare takeing care of the kids. If he wasn't so understanding I don't think i would have been able to nurse my kids. I did work before I had my kids, and also after I had Jonathan even after he passed away. And then after I had Vianna i worked a few weeks, but it was to much pressure on her. So I now sit at home. When im not on my online mommy group or takeing care of them, i'm sleeping.

Well that is all for tonight sorry I didn't get this in before midnight. oh well one day with out a blog. I'll have to make up for it today :)

Crazy Sunday

2005-05-22T22:15:00.000-04:00

Crazy Sunday....

Well I have been wondering about my hubby. I swear he has been taking ginseng again. He says he hasn't but he has been all over me today, and actually able to keep up with out wanting a nap. He says that he has been taking my prenate's. He might as well I cant. They make me sick and so tired.

We never made it to splash park, obviously. :) But we did go to breakfast and then to big lots. And he ended up getting a new saw. So he has been a very lucky man today.

At home we filled up the pool (in which the dog has put a small hole in the air ring) and Vi played in it while whe were filling it. It was so cute wish i would have taken the camera out there. Nathanial didnt want anything to do with the pool just wanted to nurse. Must be a male thing ;)

well thats all for tonight.

Well its Saturday

2005-05-21T12:03:00.000-04:00

Well its Saturday

Hubby had to work today and im stuck here. Vianna is trying to drive me crazy, getting into everything she knows she not suppose to be in. And of course when i tell her to stop she either gets on the floor and starts to scream or give's me that f*** you look. I am so tired of her giveing me that look. She always waits till im nursing Nathanial to realy start her crap up.

So after im done nursing Nathanial hes off to bed and so is she. Mommy needs a little me time. I know shes just testing the waters and seeing how far she can go. But she is driveing me crazy. But she is almost 2 years old so I can blame that. I still hope that she will grow out of it..

Tomarrow is going to be a fun day. We are going to take the kids to Splash park. Vianna loves that place, and I love the fact that it is free for the kids to play in the water. When we went there for a play date i didnt think that she would want to play in the sprinklers since they have sprinklers that can hit you from all angles, but she did. I didnt take a bathing suit or towel.But that was ok when we left i changed her and just left her in her diaper. She was asleep in the car before we were even down the road. She was so cute.

Whe'll thats all for now. might post more later.

TODAY'S RECIPE: : Salisbury Steak

2005-05-20T18:28:00.000-04:00

TODAY'S RECIPE: : Salisbury Steak

1-1/2 pounds ground beef
2 T grated onion
1 tsp salt
1/2 tsp dried marjoram leaves, crushed
1/8 tsp pepper
1 envelope mushroom gravy mix
1 can (3 to 4 ounces) sliced mushrooms, drained
2 T red wine, optional
In a large bowl, combine ground beef, grated onion, salt, marjoram, andpepper. Mix well.Divide meat into 6 portions; shape into oval patties about 3/4-inch thick.Broil Salisbury steak 3 inches from heat for 3 to 4 minutes; turn and broilother side for about 4 minutes, or until done as desired.Prepare gravy mix as package directs. Stir in mushrooms and wine. Heatthrough. Pour gravy over Salisbury steak patties and serve.Makes 6 servings.

my day so far

2005-05-20T13:37:00.000-04:00

my day so far

Well today started as any other Vi wants up, Nathanial is screaming. So I got the kids up and fed. And while i was looking over Ebay to get a friend of mine some stuff that she needs for her business. At which time Vianna gave her brother a piece of garlic leaf and by the time that i noticed(hes always gaging himself with his fingers) and tried to get it out he swallowed it. So I called the dr.'s office and they said dont worry. And now he has stinky garlic breath. Now he has been nursed and is taking a nap, and i put vianna in her room for a nap. And I get a chance to relax and do a little of this before i have to do some house work.
my little one a couple of months ago.

mypizza face little girl.

Welcome to my blog

2005-05-19T23:11:00.000-04:00

Hello,
This is my first blog (well not first but hopefuly ill get it right this time).
I have been married to a wonderful man since November 6, 1999. We have had 3 Beautiful children. Jonathan was born on July 9,2000 and he passed away on April 24, 2003. Vianna was born July 12, 2003. And Nathanial was born on October 6, 2004.

They are the greatest kids around. Vi has her terible 2 going on, but she still knows how to make me laugh.